A husband has been slammed online and labelled ‘immature’, after gifting his pregnant wife kitchenware for Christmas.
In a post to Reddit, user u/eighteightfivesix explained how she was expecting to receive jewellery for the holiday but was crushed when all she got was a set of pots and pans.
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The pregnant mum took to the subreddit r/Mommit, to share her disappointment – describing how her husband had asked if she wanted jewellery – getting her hopes up.
But as Christmas came, the only thing sparkly were the festive lights.
“Why would he ask that if he’s going to just buy me a pots and pans set,” she said.
“I love kitchen stuff but the house needed pots and pans so we were gonna buy them anyway.
“I wanted something sparkly dammit.”
The mum added that she thought she might just be “overly emotional” because she’s “25 weeks pregnant with her second child”.
However, at a family dinner, her feelings were validated by an unimpressed aunt who called the gift “ballsy”.
“We went to my parents’ for Christmas dinner and when we opened our Christmas crackers, mine had a set of measuring spoons in it,” she recalled.
“I jokingly said ‘oh perfect they go with my pots and pans set’. He replied “I knew you were upset by the pots and pans!!’”
“And my aunt then said “you got her pots and pans? That’s ballsy. Especially since she’s carrying a baby’”
Her husband’s response left the expectant mum excited – and once again got her hopes up.
“Well Christmas isn’t over yet,” he said.
Later in the night, her husband took her aside to defend the gift.
“He later privately talked to me and said what a good price they were and how we needed them,” she recalled.
“I agreed and honestly didn’t care at this point because he strongly implied ‘Christmas wasn’t over’.”
She continued to reassure him that she liked the gift as they drove home, but her husband just sat silently.
“On the car ride home I said ‘I really do like them and I’m not trying to seem ungrateful. You just got my hopes up by saying you were getting me jewellery’,” she explained.
“He said nothing and hasn’t spoken to me all night. I asked him what was wrong and he said “it doesn’t matter there’s nothing I can do about it” and wouldn’t elaborate.
“Radio silence since.”
‘I feel so stupid and confused.’
The mum was confused – taking to Reddit asking: “What happened? I feel so stupid and confused.”
Many took to the comment section to comfort the mum and blast the husband for his “immature” response.
“You did nothing wrong here, and he is acting this way to make you feel bad so that he doesn’t have to. Do not fall for his bullsh*t,” one said.
“He said ‘Christmas isn’t over yet’ in the presence of other people so he wouldn’t look like an a**hole to them. But he didn’t actually have any plan, he just wanted to save face,” another wrote.
With a third launching a savage attack: “Your husband is an immature d*** – Now his ego is bruised, and he is sulking and giving the silent treatment because no one liked his sh**** gift.”
While some blasted the husband’s response, many targeted the unimpressive gift – hinting that it was sexist.
“A household gift with a side order of gender stereotyping… It’s not a gift for him even though I’m sure he plans on eating if not actually cooking or cleaning the cookware,” one user said.
“Household items are not a nice gift unless you specifically asked for them,” another commented.
“A household necessity is not a gift for wife / mom,” a third explained.
One user even suggested that he should have purchased a gift card to make up for it.
“If he understood and cared, he could take 10 minutes to grab his phone, order a gift card, print it out, and hand you an actual gift.”
However, some users defended the gift, sharing their own experience purchasing or receiving ‘household’ items for Christmas and birthdays.
“I asked for a Dyson one year and was THRILLED when I actually got it! But then my family started giving my husband a hard time for buying me a vacuum, so I had to like, prove how happy I was,” one wife said.
Another user spoke of buying their husband “non-stick pans” for his birthday and “kitchen tools/grilling things” for Christmas.
They added: “Is that ok because it was a woman giving it to a man?
“Instead of looking at it as gender roles why can’t people see the gift for the intention – making part of someone’s daily life easier/more enjoyable with better tools/materials?” A third said.
Husband’s ruined Christmas plans
The mum took back to Reddit in a follow-up post, explaining that her husband apologised.
He supposedly had “something planned” but a massive snow storm ruined the day.
“It was supposed to be ready 2 days before Christmas. We had a massive snow storm and he has never lied to me so I believe this,” she said.
“He also said ‘today was supposed to go so differently’ and that he meant ‘Christmas isn’t over yet’ because I hadn’t gotten my gift yet.
“He then said that was a stupid thing to say because it came out wrong.”
She continued saying she believes the gift may be an engagement ring.
“We are married but I never got an engagement ring because we were broke young parents at the time so I’m thinkinggggggg it might be a ring.
I don’t really see why else something like a necklace wouldn’t be ‘ready’.
“Guess we will see!!”
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